The things to look for in a girl...

Okay- so I perhaps am the most terrible mother in the history of the world for teaching my son the word "easy".  But I also might be the worst mother in the history of the world if I DIDN'T teach him the word easy too.

Last night Gavin and I took the most wonderful mother/son walk around the block, just talking and playing...and Gavin saying "red light...STOP!" or "green light...GO!" and we would run or stop accordingly.  LOVED. IT.  As we rounded the corner I saw the saddest little thing and it both saddened me and scared me as a mom.  I saw a group of boys- probably 11 or 12 years old playing basket ball in the front yard of a house and this sad little girl, just flirting away from across the street.  She clearly wasn't invited, but wanted to be noticed so badly by the boys.  She was sitting in her front yard talking LOUDLY on her cell phone, her little black bra showing pretty much as loudly as she was talking. As a former adolescent girl, my heart went out to her, remembering what it was like to feel like your self worth was lost or found in a boy liking or disliking you.  But now as the mom of a boy, I wanted to say simultaneously "stay away, boys...and girlfriend- get a hobby...and some confidence!"

So it got me thinking about what kind of girl I would hope that Gavin would pick.  Before he was born, I knew that part of my job was to equip him to grow up and be a husband. I have known- with my head- for a long time now that if I raise my son to be my baby his whole life- I will have failed as a mom!  However since I'm in the cute "I'm crazy about my mom" stage with Gavin right now, I know that I know this with my head only right now, but someday I have to know it with my heart...and it's something I need to tell myself over and over as my baby...no, my little boy, grows to be a man.   My hope is that Gavin will grow up someday to be a Godly man with a Godly wife and that they will serve the Lord and honor Him with THEIR family.

SO- last night's walk turned into our first lesson on the subject.  I told Gavin that the three most important things to look for in a girl are a girl who: Loves Jesus, is confident...and is not easy (I promise I didn't tell him what "easy" means).  He mentioned later that it's important to be kind- which I agree with as well.  Here's to praying that God is growing up a little girl into a young lady somewhere out there in the world and that someday will be a woman of God who loves Jesus and will love my little boy as his wife.  Some day.  Not today obviously.  But someday.